I am a musician (singer mostly and I write songs, play some instruments) and talent manager, which is a feast or famine business.
My 2 daughters are grown and my oldest has a baby girl of her own. My youngest is a musician and actress as well. I love helping people, I love the ocean, I love music. I love family.
I was faithfully married for 28 years . I married for life. In the past 5 years we saw a big change in my husband. Maybe it is a midlife crisis with a twist. But we discovered a 20 year porn habit and at least 5-7 years of random cheating. These were things birthed by family in his young life. At least 3 expert counselors told him he is a sex addict but he denies it. It explains the many job losses this intelligent talented man has had.
I never knew what he was doing and never suspected because for the majority of years everyone knew we were a romantic couple, best of friends, lovers, even though all along he was dealing with these issues and sexuality issues. It feels like the person he was died. I wanted to do whatever it took to save our marriage but he did not. It feels to our family that he died. So much infidelity, lies, hostility, and now he has moved away. Counselors said he was trying make me and even his daughter out to be bad guys to justify his behavior. He remembers every grievance he has ever had. Family forgives, we have forgiven a lot but he cannot seem to so he magnifies things to justify himself. Even after people say sorry he holds it. My daughter and I are not bad guys. Anyone that knows us knows it.
He was supporting us a little bit but now says we need to support ourselves. (me mainly) He was/is the major breadwinner, I was a wife, mom, supporter of his masters degree, homeschooling mom, we all did music together and I did my management submitting from home. My husband made an LLC so his money would go into that and he would not have to be truthfully accountable. We are at his mercy financially. His current job has ended he says and every bill is late because he says he did not get his last check. My husband wants to divorce and live his "alternative" life now and indulge his habits. I am grieved. I miss the man I married. I loved him. He now has ended yet another job he says and says he is "taking a break" before finding another job. I do not know if he filed for unemployment. Meanwhile the bills are piling up. And our first court status hearing is this month.
Now I cannot afford my home expenses and definitely cannot afford a lawyer. "Regular" job finding at this age has been an ego killer to say the least. I have retained a wonderful lawyer but all I could pay was the filing fee and 300 dollars more but I need legal money. My lawyer is working with me. I'm broke... the process sever came unglued because he wants payment right away and I don't have it. SO I am starting this campaign to pay hm and my lawyer. I need a good representative in my corner to make sure this divorce is fair. It says on this site it is for people in unfair divorces. This one is. I was faithful and married for life. The time since he left has been excruciating but I am learning to have hope again.
If you can find it in your heart to donate to me it would be a huge blessing for such a sad event. It is humbling to even ask for help but I need it. Thank you.
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