The next mouth we spent time getting to know one another. After spending time together one night, I found out i was pregnant. I told him and he changed his mind and he couldn't be with me because of that. A couple weeks go by and he calls me out of the blue and said how he could not stop thinking about me and wanted to see where this went. He came and got me that night He even made it official and asked me to be his Girlfriend on February 23 2007.
We got a apartment and at first everything was fine. I went to my apartment and packed only what could fit into his car and left everything else behind.( was told he would buy me new things better things) I had to bring my 2 cats to my moms because he said i could have them but then went back on what he said. Although i was sad i knew i could still see them. Got settled into our apartment and things started to go down hill. first it was him being secretive and distant then fights were started for no good reason and he would leave sometimes for hours sometime for a couple days. Never knowing where he went.( Later I found out it was to gamble) At first he was apologetic and we worked through things.
By then i already had feeling.The next couple months were horrible. We fought a lot and he became possessive with money and the car and checked up on me all the time.While all this was going on i was pregant with a boy. The one night we were fighting and i had a cigarette in my mouth and he pushed me down on the bed and i was screaming owe your burning me. He finally let me go and i had a burn on my nose and I began to get bad craps and went to the hospital. I was in labor at 4 months the doctors were able to stop the labor but after a ultra sound I found out something was wrong and my baby, he was sick. While at the hospital i was asked about my burn and i lied to protect him. The next month i went to a specialist and found out my son had no chance to live and i had to make a hard decision to have a dc&e or carrying until i deliver natural. I opted for the dc&e. On Jun 14 2007 I said goodbye to baby David and had him cremated my ex seemed to be there for me. Again that was short lived not soon after the fighting started again and the psychical abuse also became more and more. Pushes, punches grabbing of my arms to the point i had black and blues, leaving me with no money or car. Police were called by others and i lied again to protect him. he even took my sons urn and threatened to drop it off of the balcony.
We ended up being evicted out of that apartment and moved up north in December. It was two days before Christmas and he kicked me out of his car in the middle of no where, in the middle of a snow storm. once i made it to his home he was still fighting and beat me and bloodied my lip and as soon as he left so did I. I went to a neighbors house and had a friend come pick me up and i stayed there. the day after Christmas he picked me up and i went back to his house. Things went OK for a couple weeks but were not back to normal. We still were fighting but no abuse. February came and we hit our 1 year anniversary. We went out to a local bar and had some drinks and we had intercourse for the first time in over a month. and that resorted to us conceiving our daughter.
The whole pregnancy he was great loving caring and involved throughout. Was there for her birth. the first 3 moths things seemed to be OK and then they went back to the old ways, Name calling, Hitting, being Secretive. He even made me do a home DNA test for our daughter.The one night he was so mad, our daughter was in her swing and he swept everything off the counter and a glass candle hit right beside out daughter. He eventually moved out leaving me with his son until school was done and our daughter. He said he did not want to be together anymore. The next couple months I continued life the best i could with calls from him asking what i was doing who i was talking to, he even called the one time and could not get a hold of me and drove from Pittsburgh to the house (a hour drive) and checked the caller ID just to try to track me down. I also was called by him, not him checking on our daughter but asking me to come see him( always late at night 11 pm and later) only for his "Needs" that continued until the end April. Then we decided to work things out and move back in with each other Pittsburgh bond Tessa , Jimmy and i was. Things were awkward for a little while but calm.
That didn't last long as usual. Fighting and the psychical and emotional abuse started up. At one point after Tessa Birthday in November and after Christmas and New Years. We had gotten into fight and he left and said we were done. While away he kept tabs on me and even showed up to a bar i was at with girlfriends of mine. So there was no fighting there, i reluctantly left with him knowing he had been drinking. We sat in the driveway to the house while he yelled at me after almost a hour i said i was done talking and he stormed up the driveway. I opened up my door and he begin shoving and hitting getting me as i was getting out of the car. I remember swinging this car charger at him so he would stop hitting me. when i got out and walked in front of the car he punched the gas hitting me with the car and i hit into the car behind me. he hurried and left and i was in shock i went and checked on my daughter and asked my roommate if he could take me to the store 5 mins away. when i came back my daughter was gone, he had taken her. i called the police and he was arrested for hitting me with his car. at the hearing against the police and the domestic violence advocate i agreed to him getting a plea. we stayed together and moved into his mothers there the fighting and all the abuse continued. I left again to my mother only to come back because he wasn't going to do those things any more. Christmas time came and he again was abusive and i was miserable. A couple days after he and a friend came home drunk and he again was shoving and hitting me and he called the police on me. They came and i asked to go to a domestic violence shelter. I thought my daughter and i was safe i was wrong. He went to the next county over and applied for a protection order including our daughter and i was forced to give her to him. It was his way to get me to come back and i did. the abuse still continued and i just dealt with it.
That summer we moved to his sisters until I bought our house in Ohio. The first year was good and bad. then 2 years living there the fighting became more and more until one night the police were called by him again and i was arrested for defending my self (our story's even matched. Once again i was separated from daughter. After going to court saying the only way i could see my daughter was supervised. He dropped my daughter off to my friend daily and she stayed almost every night until i came home. After that i had no trust in the police and lived with the abuse. march 2015 my father came to live with us and i took care of him because he was deathly ill. Fighting continued but he was being careful for it not to be known. After my dad passed in June, I went to Connecticut to visit with family. He came a week into my being there without anyone's knowledge. he stayed that night and left the next day. I stayed for almost 2 more weeks receiving calls from him and having to block him even. And he then would bother my family and make up things and i would unblock him. He even told lies to get them to turn away from me. I finally returned home by him( because he was picking up my niece and her boyfriend in Ct) when i got home that night he got into a fight with me and he was trying to get the cell out of my hands shoving me around. Our daughter walked in and said " daddy stop Daddy stop, mommy please get us out of here and i will never ask anything from you again". I did just that and hid from him at a friends house until i got a protection order on him and i never looked back. My ex has 3 convictions of violating my protection order and is searving almost 5 years probation. I i have no convictions and am not on probation. My ex used the judical system to abuse me and muniplated the courts seeking full custody and won. My daughter will now have to change schools, a home she has been in since she was 2, leave friends that she has had since prescool, not be allowed to go to church, move to another state, and most of all deall with the emoional abuse at the hands of her father who has been in and out of her life since she was 3. I have always been in her life and and taken care of her. I need the money to fight for my daughter's return home we she has told the courts and everyone she wants to be with me. I cant let her down and give up fighting for her. This is happening nation wide Abusers are winning custody from their victim. Please help me bring her home i have exausted all my funds for lawyers and need help obtaining another one and bring justice for my daughter before her dad starts psycally abusing her because she does something that reminds him of me and angers him
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